I have to get something off my chest because it's eating at me.
I'm a severe people approval addict, at times. If people don't like me or agree with what I say or rather, think i'm wrong for something.... it literally eats at me.
So, yesterday i posted on my facebook status that the kids needed to go back to school. Not so much because i am "sick" of them, but more because i still have to get my job done, so I can get paid to support my wonderful children.
I vented.
And you know what? I meant it!
Snow days are tough. Whether you want to admit it or not, it throws everyone off schedule. Now, if i were at home snowed in, where i could enjoy my kids and do something fun and creative, it would be one thing.
But when i'm trying to manage training on a conference call with two kids in the background.... it's tough.
It's not a cake walk.
And in my opinion, that's ok.
So then, someone posted a negative comment on my status about how sad it is that we can't slow down and enjoy spending time with our kids/families.
Again, i would and I do enjoy spending time with my kids....
When i'm not trying to WORK.
But then, someone else (who has no experience with parenting whatsoever) posted on their own status ....
(let me side step here for a second. ... Facebook can be so immature. i can't believe i'm seriously upset/affected by what someone else posted as their status that i don't even really know if it was aimed at me!)
but anyway - i read a status about something like "if you are sick of your kids after 2 snow days, you shouldn't have had kids.... I will never take a little smile for granted. There are millions of people that can't have kids - you should be lucky you have them. What an honor."
I guess it just, quite frankly ... pissed me off.
Because I love my kids.
I don't take them for granted.
I know that there are people that can't have kids, but let me tell you right now...
even the best parents in the world that planned their children for YEARS before they were born...
....get frustrated.
They always love their children, but often... don't like them.
And i mean that with all the love in the world. I truly believe you can love someone and not like them at the moment.
Maybe i"m wrong for that.
I don't know.
But it absolutely goes right through me when someone puts on their status "if you are sick of your kids after 2 days, you shouldn't have had them".
REALLY!?
And i seriously do not know WHY i am so affected by this! It's ridiculous! I don't even know that that comment was aimed at me, but it was pretty ironic if it wasn't.
Part of me wants to totally deactivate my entire facebook page because half of the time, the crap on there just makes me mad.
Then, the other half of me needs to accept that people have their own opinions, and what happens in my home is my business, and people dont' have to agree with it.
I guess it just upsets me because I feel like I really do enjoy kids, I think i am pretty good with kids. I had a freaking girl scout troop for 3 years, i help out in the kids classrooms when they need volunteers.
But again, who am i trying to prove myself to!?
What is wrong with me!!!!
I'm still not over it, i just want to go out on my front porch and yell at the world (or maybe just those couple of people) ....
I AM A REAL PERSON! My KIDS GET ON MY NERVES! YOU TRY WORKING A FULL 8 HOUR DAY AND HAVING YOUR KIDS AROUND!
DAMNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN.
That felt good.
First of all, Facebook used to be fun. Now, people make passive aggressive comments/status updates, etc. because they don't have the (for lack of a better word) BALLS to just come right out and say what they REALLY mean, and to WHOM they really mean it toward.
ReplyDeleteI saw your status update about this particular subject. Honestly, if people are going to make snide comments (when there was no reason to do so), then they are just creating drama and are, in my opinion, ignorant for trying to turn your comment into something it's not. They should feel ashamed for taking cheap stabs at you, when you didn't even say anything wrong.
It would really bother me if I were in your situation, but sometimes you've just got to let it go. Some people just aren't worth it. Obviously they don't know you very well.
You are so right to get frustrated. I've read books (granted, they're about infants right now) that say if your child is driving you crazy and won't stop crying, put it down and walk away for a few minutes and just let it cry. How is that any different when they get older? And furthermore, your frustration with facebook isn't unfounded. It's one of the main reasons I haven't posted hardly anything on my wall in months. I was tired of people taking what I was saying the wrong way. But that's just me. I think you're an awesome mom! And yes, the kids do need to go back to school. This weather is ridiculous!
ReplyDeleteGirl, I'm so irritated about this.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, people who don't have kids have no right to say anything about it. They just don't have any room to talk, because they have no idea.
Secondly, any mom who says she doesn't get annoyed with her kids is a freaking liar. EVERY mom does. I know a lot of moms. And we all feel the same way. We all know what a blessing our kids are, but we are human, and they are a handful to say the least! We wouldn't ever consider NOT having them in our lives, but they certainly drive us nuts sometimes! And honestly, that's the same for any family members, close friends, significant others... we all get on each others nerves sometimes!
These comments that were posted about you are so dumb I'm seriously angry about it.
Ugh.
You're an awesome mommy. One who has sacrificed more for her kids than most people will ever sacrifice for ANYTHING. Screw them.